Just finished reading N.U.T.S. What I find so sad is where I am now could have been repaired, stopped or not even an issue, if I had read this book and others before it was too late. All I can do now is be that better person/man. I can only control me, I cannot control anyone else.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I feel the same way! But a little part of me doubts that I would have read these books in the same way before BD. I believe that the BD opens us up and makes us capable of comprehending, applying and acting.
The below is from the movie “The day the earth stood still” Movie is not that great but this quote is IMO
Professor Barnhardt: You say we're on the brink of destruction and you're right. But it's only on the brink that people find the will to change. Only at the precipice do we evolve. This is our moment.
I would recommend that you get on with the Dale Carnegie. It's great!
F
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
It's on the pile of books I have to read F. So many books that I need a holiday to read them all. You are so right, until we hit rock bottom, we don't start climbing up.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
lol I know what you mean about the book pile. I keep buying books when I've not even finished the last one yet, lol. Which Dale carnegie book is it? I remember reading one of his books ages ago. I agree about wishing I'd read this book before BD, but as F said I probably wouldn't have taken much notice. You so right F, I never looked at it like that before
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Funny thought in my mind while running this afternoon. Why would the W want the money sent to her now, when she hasn't done the legal paperwork? The only thing I could think was she wanted it all done before I leave the country town. Maybe she hasn't got paperwork coming from the solicitor? Anyway doesn't matter. Life goes on. See what running does to you, it makes you think about so many things. TTD180, the book was "win friends and influence people".
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
"Professor Barnhardt: You say we're on the brink of destruction and you're right. But it's only on the brink that people find the will to change. Only at the precipice do we evolve. This is our moment."
F, this is an excellent quote you brought fourth....More people need to see/understand this here.....
That's the one I've read HWA, but I've not got it anymore. I'm reading the ministry of a messy house at the mo. I might get how to win friends and influence people in the digital age, that sounds good
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Why would the W want the money sent to her now, when she hasn't done the legal paperwork? The only thing I could think was she wanted it all done before I leave the country town. Maybe she hasn't got paperwork coming from the solicitor?
Answering this will properly be mindreading but I don’t see why your moving would change anything in all of this in a digital age. Even if you moved around the world everything could be done without delay. The reason for her doing this could be many different things.
You're not planning on sending her anything before the Ls are done, right?
F
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
Did I miss something here? I thought the W didn't know you were leaving.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
