I had my X arrested today

[sleeper]

I was in the bedroom of the house when I heard the doorbell ring. Walking to the door I saw it was X as the front door is a French style door with many lites. I opened the door and she asked, "Can we talk for a minute?" I responded, "OK" and she stepped inside.

She began by saying, "We aren't communicating well", and I agreed as I have recently mentioned dismay over lack of knowledge about children: Report cards, events such as DS's "Colonial Days" (I had less than 48 hrs notice) and DD's High School Dance next weekend (I found out about it last Friday when ticket sales ended and she had no ticket).

She then turned the discussion to things she wants from the house wanting to know when she can come in and "get her stuff." Long story, she moved out 3 years ago without cleaning out the house when I bought it back from her. She had gotten it in the divorce settlement and she and H built a new home and I bought it back from her. There are some things in that house that I consider hers and want her to have. It is a long story and I've tried to take things to her/asked when she could come get some things in the beginning but she said the time was not right or she didn't have room at her new residence, etc. Now it has become a crisis issue for some reason. The problem is she now insists on coming in and picking and choosing what she considers "hers". I don't feel comfortable with her in my house but when she said we weren't communicating I thought it was about the kids.

Within a couple of sentences she said she would get a lawyer and take me to court. I explained to her she has taken my children from me and I no longer trust her to come on my property and take what she says is hers. I pointed out I have attempted to bring things, brought her some things and asked for a list of what she wants that she has never provided. This opened a discussion of her violation of custody orders. I pointed out she said I could have kids every other weekend, and one night during the week, over a year ago but I have yet to have them one entire weekend, so how can I trust what she says or does now? She responded saying I could have them the weekends my wife's kids are not with her (the opposite weekends I had them for years). She again asked when she could get "her things" and I offered Christmas break as I am off and will have some time to get some things done then. She then demanded an exact "date".

At this point we were near the door. I reminded her the Christmas break is the two weeks around Christmas and New Years and I don't have a "date" as I didn't have a calendar (neither did she). I opened the door and told her to leave my home, pointing out her threatening demeanor. She then walked across the room, away from the door, sat in a chair and said, "I'm not leaving until I get an exact date, you can call the police if you want."

X's H had been sitting in the driveway as he drove her to my house. He must have seen the discussion at the open door and X's demeanor as he appeared at the door while I was talking to the police on my phone. He stepped in and began to berrate me as he took out his phone to video the exchange while telling X to leave, cursing, telling her she was trespassing and cursing me. He told her they would file a lawsuit, a lein on the house, full custody of the children (we have joint, shared custody although she is in violation), the paperwork was all ready to go.

X finally did get up to exit the house, agreeing with him to go to the sidewalk and wait for the police even though she said she would wait seated in the chair and "tell them" her side. As she walked out the door the front doorknob came off in her hand (it does occasionally). She said, "I'm keeping this, it belongs to me" and walked away to the sidewalk carrying it with her.

Police came, took statement from me and viewed video I had recorded. I'm sure they viewed X's H's video too, then they arrested my X. As they cuffed her on the sidewalk, X's H yelled to me, "Are you really going to do this Sleeper? you have the power to stop this", then pulled out his camera and took a pic of me on the porch and yelled, "I'm taking this so I can show your kids what you've done." One of the officers returned my doorknob to me.

I immediately called my daughter and my son. My daughter was on the bus home from school and I didn't want to upset her so I told her I would call her back. My son was home but moments after I called him, X's H also called him (I saw him on his phone on the sidewalk) and he said, "Wait a minute dad", put me on hold and never returned to the line.