On the Edge - Not Sure Which Side I Will Land On

[S4tk]

I'm a newbie here, but I've read your entire previous thread all in the last hour and I really have to say that except for the fact that you are here on the DB forum, I would have guessed you are the WAS in this M.

I think it would help you to either throw in the towel and file for D, or to finally own what you need to own. I mean to really own it, not just lip service. And I don't mean the "I am a failure" stuff. You sound like a decent dad, a pretty smart guy - in other words, not a big time loser.

DB the right way, do your 180s and forget about your wife's OM, her issues, etc. as one previous poster in one of your threads said, "Don't teach the W a lesson. Life will do that for them."

You cannot control her, as much as you would like. I can painfully relate to that. Here is the reality. She may leave you tomorrow for the OM. You can't control that.

But what it sounds like is that you have a W who has trusted you twice, and now potentially for a third time since she hasn't left yet. And yet, you are the one contemplating filing for D. Relinquish control over her, and focus on the 180s - for you.

If I'm off here, I apologize.