Well, first take a deep breath and really think about what it is you want. A divorce or to hold on to hope for your marriage? Writing her a letter, the negative thinking, and talk of filing divorce papers are obviously not DB techniques....so if you do these things they most likely will add to negatives and not positives.
Yes, your wife coming to the counseling session could be her "last resort" before leaving, but it may not be.
You can not expect change in her after one counseling session. This is a marathon, not a sprint.
You've successfully DB'd before, I don't know what went wrong to cause things to fall back apart and for your wife to seek out OP; but if you did it before, you can do it again.....do you want to do it again is the question?
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
