W found out, and actually texted me today and asked me about it. I jokingly told her we went on a date, and she about lost it.
Time to revisit 2nd's post from a couple of pages back:
Originally Posted By: 2ndtimearoundCA
1. There is a lot of push/pull going on in your situation that could be creating attraction. Since she is not totally done, pushing her away might actually be drawing her back in. Also there is the possible jealousy about the other women.
2. Your way of interacting with your w needs some serious help if you are going to have a healthy long term marriage. While it could create attraction, it will lead to an unhealthy volatile relationship.
It is clear that your w needs help (ugly babies comments, watching tv all day, etc.). All the back and forth, I believe is partially on you Jon; you are so frustrated with it, that the frustration actually perpetuates the back and forth issue. I hope you stick around here because I think others have had some great insights into you and I don't think you have totally heard them.
If you can make it happen, I believe the your relationship with you w would benefit greatly from counseling.
I am all about creating attraction, but I think you need to understand why it may be happening. Once you understand it, you may be able to come up with healthier ways to do the same thing.
He's right, while it may seem your actions are beneficial in creating some attraction it's actually a really unhealthy way to go about it. Jealousy might bring her back briefly, but it's not going to keep her there or foster a strong relationship between the two of you. I had a GF and we mutually broke up, then I started dating her best friend. My ex GF was furious. I didn't really understand why since she had been on board with breaking up too, but my new GF put it this way- "she doesn't want you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either." I think that's EXACTLY where your W is right now. So if you wave women in her face it may bring out her jealousy, but don't get that confused with a desire for reconciliation.
By the way, the 2nd woman I dated in the story above is my W, LOL!
