lol NQ I think we still need pity parties from time to time or to vent. I know it's tough not to let these Bs grind you down. I'm dreading seeing H tomorrow, I've not seen him since our last phone call. I may just send my son out of the door when he pulls up. Not making excuses for him, but being in this MLC fog he's probably not realised how much he's upset me. He's probably forgotten all about the phone call! But then I'm mind reading now, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Ok, we'll keep the pity parties - just as long as we keep them to a minimum LOL.
Of course he doesn't know how much he's upset you. Mine looks at me like I'm completely off my rocker when he triggers the tears, and mine forgets complete conversations as well.
Why not be just about ready to go out when he picks up your son, a "too busy getting ready and can't chat" sort of thing. Make sure the mail is ready to be handed over as well - don't give him a reason to loiter.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Good idea NQ You must've had plenty of practice at doing this, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Not yet as H has done the visiting at our place. This weekend is the first time our son is going to H's place for the day, and I'm going to be driving. Not sure if I'll get away with "got to be somewhere else soon" as not much opens that early Sunday mornings and H would never believe me if I said I was going to church.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
There's a 180 for you right away, start going to Church Only kidding There's plenty of excuses for a Sunday morning, you're going out to lunch with a friend being one of them How about it's back to Church Sunday and my friend's just invited me to come to Church with her, hehe
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
He's supposedly turning up at 8:00 to pick up our son. I suppose I could be meeting a friend for brunch. That's too early even for church so it would have to be one of the brunch-serving places or maybe Timmies for coffee - they're 24/7 LOL.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Yesterday W came over to watch The Walking Dead, and we wen't to dinner. She was fairly tired and crabby. She wants to go to movie tomorrow. Hopefully she'll be rested up and in better mood.
My reports from the field are pretty monotonous, aren't they?
She saw I had the snow shovels and rock salt lined up and asked if I could put a shovel in the car and if there was extra salt. I let her pick a shovel (we have 4 - don't ask...) and fixed her up with a coffee can of salt. At least she left me a good shovel, unlike the rake incident. So, does that make her an Acts of Service gal? She loves to have me do stuff like that - how hard is it to stop and pick up ice melt or salt? She really likes to do the helpless waif routine. She did mention the guy down the street who mows lawns is going to get a snow blower. That makes me feel better - believe, me, he's not another potential OM. He's a good guy, but wiped out from booze or drugs, and on disability.
She said Saturday she'd try to remember to bring the dishes (for the 3rd time... Sigh).
I wonder what she's going to do when it starts snowing. She hates, hates, hates driving in snow and used to go to great lengths to find excuses for me to drive her anywhere if it snowed even a tiny bit. And we met in AK! And I've gotten no closer to buying another car.
In other news, my BIL is on a full-blown MLC. My sister is probably going to lose her hose because he's mismanaged the money, and won't give her any help. He's a lifelong alcoholic, so his behavior has always been self-destructive. He has a big shop that he loves, so to give it all up to move into a hotel, he must have it bad.
Sorry to hear the news about your sister I guess the alcohol makes the MLC worse anyway. I'm glad you've got a good relationship with your W, I'm quite jealous Have a good time and hope that W is feeling a bit less grouchy tonight
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I think we still need pity parties from time to time or to vent. I know it's tough not to let these Bs grind you down. I'm dreading seeing H tomorrow, I've not seen him since our last phone call. I may just send my son out of the door when he pulls up. Not making excuses for him, but being in this MLC fog he's probably not realised how much he's upset me. He's probably forgotten all about the phone call! But then I'm mind reading now, lol.
My reports from the field are pretty monotonous, aren't they? 