Just become who you want to become. You're not doing it for her, but she - everyone - will definitely notice over time.
Don't let what she says and does bother you. Pretend that...I don't know...you're rubber and she's glue.
Actively pursue the man you want to be, LL! Focus on your basics and forget about the rest for now. You can do it!
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.