I was just reading your thread as well and had to chuckle at the mind reading part. Perhaps our H's are long lost twins!
My H is keeping tabs on me too of things I didn't know he was expecting.

I also agree with you about how having kids can sometimes be the "glue" that sort of helps to hold things together and see if there can be a chance to try to work things out.
When there are no kids, there really is hardly any reason to stay in contact.
So far, I've been the only one to reach out to H and he hasn't texted, called, IM'd me or anything. We started out long distance as well as we met online.

Me: 31 H: 32
Married 10 years, together 11
No kids
H moved out to an apt 8-3-13

Experience: That most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God, do you learn. ~C.S. Lewis