Last 2 days, 6 calls from her, 3 of which an hour long, maybe the fog has actually lifted.
Fantastic! FYI, I've read a lot of piecing stories here and this is how it does often happen, the WAS seemingly overnight goes "all in" with wanting to work on the M. It happens almost as fast as BD does.
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She has a lot of thinking to do, how much more?
Forget the "thinking", if she's really committed then it's time to start rebuilding the relationship. This means dating and marriage counseling. Maybe some joint calls with a DB coach too. You're in the UK, I'm not sure if they have Retrouvaille there but if so I highly recommend it.
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Loving me is not enough, she has to want to be `in-love' with me again
DO NOT say that to her! Don't pressure her about that, it will come with time. If you start pushing on this too soon she may feel like something is wrong because she doesn't have those feelings yet. It takes a long time to get the "in love" feelings back again.
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I will not go back for the sake of Step-son or her money issues
Good boundary.
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I will not entertain a relationship while OM is on the scene in any way.
Absolutely, he has got to be totally out of the picture. She has to break it off with him in an overt way, such as a call that you are listening in on. She needs to allow you full access to her phone and email so you can confirm they're not in touch. You've lost your trust for her and she has to understand that SHE has to do the hard work required to regain your trust.
