Been quiet still - thinking a lot and reflecting on myself. I know my DBing has been erratic, but I have made a lot of changes, and I want to stay focused on those and not get distracted by the R stuff, while also looking ahead to the things I need to continue to work on. W is pretty quiet as well. Her aunt and grandma left this morning, so here comes the big weekend!
Here's something I need advice on: our anniversary is in about two weeks. I'm going to assume for a moment that all goes well this weekend, and W still is committed to working on our marriage, and we move forward.
Historically, I have to admit, I am awful at occasions like that, especially with W. Include in that birthdays, Valentine's Day, etc - I can't recall a single one that I've done exceptionally well except maybe one birthday. W's love language is gifts too, so I've really screwed the pooch on that one.
My idea for the anniversary is to get her a nice non-romantic gift. There's a pair of boots she's wanted for over a year. For me to notice that she wants them and spend the money to get them would be a very big 180 for me. I figure we're probably not at a place to do the normal anniversary thing and have a nice romantic stay somewhere.
