^Thank you for your reply! My h just keeps telling his family and friends that he isn't sure what he wants and to stop pressuring him and making him stressed.
I know for sure that his parents aren't supportive of him in this at all and they think he is being a selfish child. I keep actually sticking up for him to his parents and telling them to just be patient and not to pressure him.

This is really the crux of our whole marriage problem anyway! The inability to communicate. Its like he only speaks and understands Japanese while I only speak and understand German.
He's thinking that I should know what he wants without him having to tell me.

That is frustrating that your h's sister is egging him on, right by his side.
It's nice to meet someone else on here who also doesn't have kids because I think that makes the whole situation a little different for us.

Me: 31 H: 32
Married 10 years, together 11
No kids
H moved out to an apt 8-3-13

Experience: That most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God, do you learn. ~C.S. Lewis