I see that there are those of you somewhat new to this.
First let me say, I am so sorry you are going through it.
I used to write to someone and say I cant wait until they get to the good part. To which they would say, Um, UR? Are you crazy? LOL!
Dont get me wrong, I wish I didnt have to go through all this. I wouldnt wish it on anyone. But I dont think that the lessons I've learned, the changes I've made, would have been possible without this journey.
The most important thing to remember is that you will be ok. Carry that with you. When things get tough, pull it out. When you want to quit, pull it out.
And you will be, you know.
This MLC monster, is only as powerful as we allow it to be. I used to try to envision it as this big red ball that I carried around.
After awhile, it got heavy. It wasnt even my ball. It was his. So, why the heck was I carrying it? I threw it back to him.
I needed to pick up my own ball. And I chose a pretty lavender one with flowers on it. And in my ball, was all the things I wanted to do, all the changes I wanted to make. It was heavy at first, to be sure. Because it was also filled with all the stuff I needed to sort through.
But each time I did, it became lighter. Every day that I got through, it became lighter. So that all that was left was all the good stuff.
Dont make that big red ball any heavier than it already is. Throw it back to him. Let him carry it.
You pick yours up. And fill it with all the things that make you happy. Fill it with dreams and hopes.
You only get this one life. This one chance. Dont be weighed down by someone else's stuff. Leave them to it.
