His mother told me that he seemed angry at the world and that nobody ever listens to him and he never gets his way. Sounds like something a 4 year old would say to me. I'm angry at him tonight. I'm angry that he just waltzed away from all his responsibilities and left me to deal with all the house chores myself, all the yard work, and left all the animals behind while he's just out in his fresh new apartment playing video games or whatever. Even though I have some anger tonight, I am still standing and I will continue to do anything to save this marriage. I meant every word I said in our vows. Through good times and (REALLY) bad ones. I know that patience is the #1 ingredient, so I am being as kind and patient as I can be.
My H was the same... the week he BD he drove to visit his family and told them all he's leaving me... they all advised him not to (except his sister who he has shared his feelings with for years) and he became angery that they all cared "more about you than me..." he said no one cared about his feelings and what he wanted. He sounded so childish and selfish....but all I did was validate...and told him I cared how he felt.
You are doing the right thing in being patient. You have the right ideas and lots of good advice here. All the best to you on this journey.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
