I want to affirm what Snodderly says about taking charge of your own L.
In my situation, Ms. Wonka and I intended to head for mediation. From the very beginning, I instructed my L to treat any exchanges with Ms. Wonka's L with dignity and respect. I never wanted any of the aggressive, antagonistic sh!t flowing back and forth. Then Ms. Wonka's L brought up some really nasty stuff and tried to intimidate me in a legal manner, I immediately nipped that in the bun by instructing my L that the mediation was now firmly off the table and for Ms. Wonka to refrain from contacting me during the proceedings (she tried to talk to me during this process via texts/emails).
Boy, things changed afterward...and FAST. By being firm and nonsense in my dealings with my L, it filtered out to the other side. From that point and on, it was strictly business between my L and her L in hashing out the financials and other agreements. That part of the process did protect me both emotionally and financially.
