That was awesome insight (again) uR.

I am really, really trying hard to figure out better ways to respond to him so I greatly appreciate your perspective.

Part of the problem is that I have heard this same thing for so long, I really have no clue what to say anymore. So you are probably right he is saying the same thing, and so am I. A bad pattern, I see.

I DO want them to be less stressful, so any perspective you can give me on anything big or small is highly appreciated. I'm trying to change my ways, especially the communicating effectively part, how I respond to him, because obviously it hasn't worked very well.

Yes, I used to have just SAD syndrome, then with life events last year it turned into clinical depression. I am much better now! Thank you. smile

Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.