Pud, I know how hard it is to see someone you love hurting so much. And I know you just want to fix it all for him. But you know you cant.
He has to do it or it wont be fixed.
I wanted to comment on something. I know that you can see how depressed he is. And I know about depression. I suffered from it for some time.
When you are depressed, each day is like trying to swim upstream in mud. You see branches and rocks along the way, but, you just dont have the energy to reach out for them. You just try to get through each day, each hour sometimes.
I always try to put myself in others' shoes when I think about responding to them.
And Im thinking that your h is telling you how bad work is and I know that you think telling him to think positive is a way to help him. I get that. But, he is hearing, there goes Pud, not getting what I am saying. She isnt hearing me.
Now thats not to say that you should commiserate with him and say yea, you're right they suckk. But, you might want to say, Im sorry its been hard and leave it at that.
I hope you know the spirit in which I am telling you this. I want you to understand some of what he is thinking so that maybe your interactions could be less stressful.
