The Big Chill

[Pudmuddle]

I was just hashing history of M (because I have nothing better to do at work, lol) and I remembered some interesting things.

5/2012 - H's first EA contact with AW. They went to lunch. I remember he even told me about this. Though not expressing it as an interest at the time, but going out to lunch with someone.
This is also when my father dies from a battle with Stage IV melanoma.

9/2012 - Me severely grieving and getting clinically depressed.

Beg of 2013 - His younger brother has intestinal difficulties, due to a nick in his intestines caused by and appendectomy in his teens. Turns out this led to finding he had intestinal/colon cancer and was extremely ill. He has since recovered and is undergoing chemo.

I am also receiving meds and treatment for my depression. Ignoring H basically trying to fix myself.

6/2013 - His 47th birthday. He also finds out that an old boss of his is becoming severely disabled and 'old-looking' due to some serious back injuries from years past. I remember my H telling me this and how upset and shocked his face looked. This man was only slightly older than H.

Also starts EA/PA with AW in this month.

7/13 - Bomb drop. Separate rooms, still in same house.

Holy cats! What a discovery. The man and our marriage has been through a LOT of crap. I can see more and more clearly why he would be in pain. Huh.