Finally, my reason for dating someone was to get out there and be happy. I can't be truly happy in a R with my W as roommates if I'm not getting any affection...
This is one of the most significant things you've said. We all should be able to be truly happy outside of a R. Yes, being in a R can add another dimension to our lives but it shouldn't be required to be happy.
But your thoughts about happiness should give you some insight into what your W is doing. She was probably looking for someone to fill that same need in her.
If you're talking only about sex, that's another issue. Were you going to date to have sex?
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My W doesn't currently work,
Really, she lays around all day and does nothing? How many kids do you have?
You talk a lot about "fixing" this. Cold hard fact.
You can't.
You can't because there is another thinking, feeling human being involved.
You can only fix you and your first order for business should be to slow down and just see where you are and who you want to be.
Like Mach said, you're early in this process.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
