I just wanted to say this, if I may, regarding what you wrote. I get the selfless part of loving her that you wrote about. But, I think that you also have to love you, honor you. When you do that, you love and honor her, too. The way to do it is to really and truly let her go. That does not mean to let go of hope. There is always hope as long as you decide there is. But letting go is a way to respect what you both had and it the greatest act of love there is.
To do anything less than that is a disservice to both of you.
I understand the fears you have. But, you want her to figure herself out and maybe one day look towards you not because she feels dependent on you, not because you are what she knows. You want her to look to you because she realizes that more than anything, you are what she wants.
This is a hard thing, what you are going to do. But your heart is where it should be. Time to allow her to live her life and time for you to, also.
You are, of course, spot on. Thanks for the support.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
