Gabbysmom, here is the thing that is the weirdest: he had a son before! So having children is no news to him AND he says he still wants to have a girl!!! Say what?
When I talked with his ex wife, she said he would come home and hide in his office for hours, never once interacting with the child. And they divorced when SS11 was 1 years old as well. His ex wife said he also did not participate in the coparenting and I saw it first hand.
While we were dating, H would pick up his son from the airport and come straight to my house. He would leave us watching cartoons and would take a nap. Ss always said, why is my dad sleeping again?
Then when SS left (and they fought allllll the time; I felt like I was a referee) H would spend a few days crying, literally on a fetal position, because of all the guilt he felt.
