Hi NLW- how are you ? Have you heard back from him?
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Hi NLW- how are you ? Have you heard back from him?
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Maybe you should reply something like this “I will see if I can put it on my roster.” I seems like he wanted the confirmation that you are still there and easily agreed to dinner with him. If you put a bit resistance, maybe he will pursue you more, and you will have your steak dinner for sure. Just the thought.
If i did this, he would view it as sarcastic on my part and pull the plug, I'm sure.
I understand what you mean about being 'too easy', but with such a big step (I mean, asking ME to dinner with the kids), I'm going to reinforce rather than play hard to get.
He invites you to dinner and then says he'll have to see if he can pencil you in? The mind of a WAS! I swear you couldn't make this stuff up if you wanted to!
AS, Yeah, it's sort of crazy-making if you let it get to you.
XH came to pick us up and drove in the opposite direction to all the cafes and restaurants that people who live in our part of town eat at, and that we used to frequent as a family, back in the day.
Obviously didn't want to be seen by anyone who knew us all.
S15 was sullen and non-communicative most of the evening, so i had to make light conversation. I was wracking my brain.
It was OK, like catching up with a family member - lots of 'have you seen this TV show, movie, You tube video?', etc.
At one point he said he had to go to the toilet and disappeared for about 15 mins. Too long to be normal.
He kept making elaborate offers to S15 to take him on holidays and give him things. Offered to take S15 sailing with him - he does it in the middle of a school day. Said he would drop by school at 2pm and pick him up. (!!)
After mains, he insisted we have dessert. I couldn't finish my gelati and offered it to XH. He took it and offered me half his coffee in exchange... rather intimate, I thought.
On the drive home, i thanked him for a nice meal.
XH concurred and said, "We should do this every week. Are you up for it?"
S15 and I were sort of dumbfounded.
When he left, he asked us 3X, repeatedly, if we would do this again next Thurs night.
And when S15 told him we were going horse-riding this Sat ((his birthday present), H said he wanted to come.
He asked me the time and date, and was disappointed that he had to work. Then he said he would organise for another horse-ridng session so that he could come with us.
Obviously didn't want to be seen by anyone who knew us all.
Watch the mind-reading!
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It was OK, like catching up with a family member - lots of 'have you seen this TV show, movie, You tube video?', etc.
Good! Stay away from deep convos!
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XH concurred and said, "We should do this every week. Are you up for it?"
Great! Don't have any expectations, just accept it as a nice baby-step. Hopefully he will follow through, but be prepared for him not to.
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Saints preserve us! What is going on?
He may be just starting to come out of the tunnel. MLC doesn't always last forever, but when they do finally start coming out of the tunnel it usually comes as a shock to the LBS. The alien monster suddenly shows signs of their old self and it's almost as bizarre to the LBS as when they changed into the alien to begin with. Just understand that it's not a liner process, if he is reaching the end of his journey he will likely be in and out of the tunnel a lot. Just stick with your DB'ing and do NOT pursue him! Let him drive the process.
