Walking Down a Different Street

[MileHigh]

NQ, don't worry. You and TTD won't be forgotten. The dejunking tour is a global event. LOL. Pud can get on the schedule, too.

RL, so sorry about the H acting like you touched him with a hot poker. I've had that with my Ex and with W after first BD. It's very hurtful. W and I haven't seen each other since we've discussed this, so I've just been plotting my "attack."

The cats have forgiven me for my impatience with them. Little one is sitting on the desk right now purring away and trying to give me kisses. At least someone around here wants to touch me. LOL.

So, TTD and NQ - the little shop below the studio where my class is has a lot of Brit stuff. HP Sauce, Heinz beans, those Curly Wurly bars (yum) some different kinds of cream - forget the brand, and other stuff I can't remember at the mo. I'll have to stock up so I can have a proper tea while watching Fools and Horses and such.

[Not Quitting]

The vacation continues. So far it's all a blur, and I have't even had a drink!

That either means you’re enjoying your time off or you’re too busy to be enjoying it LOL .

So, I left there feeling relaxed and at peace. As I was walking across the entrance of a parking lot, a guy driving towards the exit flipped me off and called me an a**hole for exercising my right-of-way. I was talking on my cell phone, but I was aware of what I was doing, not wandering like a zombie. And I had the right-of-way. Anyway, instead of ignoring it or laughing it off, I responded in like manner, and even escalated the yelling and gesture. To make it more embarrassing, I was on the phone with my mom! What would she have thought if that had escalated into street brawl over such a stupid incident.

Guessing you weren’t as relaxed and at peace as you thought LOL. A bit of public venting ?

I also was getting very impatient with the cats running all over my desk as I was having an epic battle with my mp3 collection. It's sad when something that's supposed to bring pleasure becomes a source of stress. I have put hours and hours into organizing and tagging music (and pictures) and I had a program pretty much mess up my entire collection and cause me to restore from backup. Besides the worry and stress I wasted a good part of 2 days of vacation! At some point, I childishly pushed a bunch of papers off my desk. Sigh.

Poor kitties . They're only trying to get your attention.

On the upside, in both of these incidents, I caught myself, evaluated the situation, determined to do better next time, and let it go. I've thought about it a couple times to analyze it for improvement, but haven't obsessed about it or let the incidents themselves bother me further. Today at my regular class, I brought it up to amuse and enlighten others. Or at least to serve as a bad example.

This is a real positive. You know what you did wrong, you analyzed your actions and you’re not dwelling on them. Keep it up .

I notice when I'm downtown for an evening, my W frequently texts. Tonight she seemed to be fishing to see if I was home yet. Sunday I had a nice walk around town, visited the library and had dinner out. I was going to go to a movie, but I had my backpack, and it had "contraband" food items in it and I didn't want to have an incident at the theater. So, tonight I splurged. I had my class, then spent some time at the library. Then I went to dinner. After that I had a nice coffee at the coffee shop and pondered how cool it would be to live in the apartments above the shops downtown. Then I went to the brand new theater (still has that new theater smell!). Flirted shamelessly with the lovely, friendly, talkative lady at the concession stand (yeah, I've still got it! LOL). I'm going to go over and help her organize her closets. Totally kidding. Anyway, after that I got the cats some of the very specific kind of food they want (fussy little critters!) and got myself a few things. And, of course, got a lot of walking in!

More flirty women, MH. Although it does make one feel good doesn’t it .

NQ, don't worry. You and TTD won't be forgotten. The dejunking tour is a global event. LOL. Pud can get on the schedule, too.

Glad to hear it LOL .

RL, so sorry about the H acting like you touched him with a hot poker. I've had that with my Ex and with W after first BD. It's very hurtful. W and I haven't seen each other since we've discussed this, so I've just been plotting my "attack."

I would even think of trying a casual touch with my H right now. I can barely get an entire conversation without him becoming moody and snappy for no reason. He’s still way too wrapped up in OW despite him saying more than once that he doesn’t see a future with her . Oh well, maybe one day. In the meantime I’ll have to settle for the fact that I get at least one hug a day from my son . Not the same but it’ll have to do for now.

The cats have forgiven me for my impatience with them. Little one is sitting on the desk right now purring away and trying to give me kisses. At least someone around here wants to touch me. LOL.

Did you think they wouldn’t forgive you?

So, TTD and NQ - the little shop below the studio where my class is has a lot of Brit stuff. HP Sauce, Heinz beans, those Curly Wurly bars (yum) some different kinds of cream - forget the brand, and other stuff I can't remember at the mo. I'll have to stock up so I can have a proper tea while watching Fools and Horses and such.

Hmmm, a Brit shop you say. My son wants to visit a couple of places in the US. Maybe when I get the passports sorted and the cash to fulfill his “want to visit” list, I’ll have to include a tour of the Brit shops as well LOL .

[TryingToDo180]

Sounds like your vacation is becoming a bit of an adventure Mind you, you make ordinary life sound like a bit of an adventure MH, lol
Do your cats go outside? As it's nice weather at the mo, my cats go out a bit more during the day. They leave me alone at night because both of them are shattered, lol. They're both curles up asleep at the mo, one on the sofa and one on top of the display cabinet, lol.

[MileHigh]

Mine are indoor only. We had too many cats meet bad ends, so W wouldn't let the last few go out. Which means I have to make sure they get plenty of playtime and attention so they have nice, happy lives. With me working from home, sometimes it's like being trapped in the asylum with the inmates!

[Not Quitting]

At least by not going out, they don't come home covered with scratches and bites - ours was a real tom cat and very territorial. If he didn't come in at night, we could be pretty sure he'd have fresh battle wounds in the morning.

I'm thinking about getting either a puppy or a cat. H doesn't like cats, despite growing up with them, so would never let us get a cat. S13 desperately wants a pet of some sort - he's even said he'll take a goldfish as a pet. My dad isn't fond of dogs but I reckon if I bought one home he'd accept it. He does like cats so I'm kind of leaning that way. It would have to be an indoor cat though - too many raccoons and coyotes in our neighbourhood.

[TryingToDo180]

I know what you mean about war wounds. My cat had a cut on her ear and it never healed up properly. She acts more like a tomcat, not very feminine at all! My little one doesn't like going outside that much especially if it's cold or wet, but she's starting to go out more now she's getting older.
The garage is the playpen for my little cat. As soon as the garage door opens, she's in there jumping on the freezer and up on the wood on the top where there's storage boxes. She'll then look down at me with that "can't get me" look, so I close the garage door and let her out when she meows, lol. I'm not letting freezing cold air into the house.
NQ, if your H hates cats then be prepared to get rid of it if he ever comes back. I know revenge is sweet, but it might be going a bit too far However he might get to like cats, you never know. This MLC has the opposite effect you know! My H liked cats when he was living here, but now he thinks they shed hairs everywhere and permanently got fleas so he moans about them. The times that I saw the old H was when the little cat went to sit on his lap and he makes a fuss

[Not Quitting]

I know what you mean about war wounds. My cat had a cut on her ear and it never healed up properly. She acts more like a tomcat, not very feminine at all! My little one doesn't like going outside that much especially if it's cold or wet, but she's starting to go out more now she's getting older.

Ours was missing a big chunk of one ear and had scars all over the place from all the fights he got into. And no matter how hard we tried, he wouldn’t always come in at night. There weren’t any coyotes in the area then so it was safer in that respect, but there were a lot more outdoor cats in those days. Nowadays there’s no way I’d want a cat to stay out overnight – he might end up as coyote food.

NQ, if your H hates cats then be prepared to get rid of it if he ever comes back. I know revenge is sweet, but it might be going a bit too far However he might get to like cats, you never know. This MLC has the opposite effect you know! My H liked cats when he was living here, but now he thinks they shed hairs everywhere and permanently got fleas so he moans about them. The times that I saw the old H was when the little cat went to sit on his lap and he makes a fuss

H doesn’t really hate them; it’s just another one of his excuse. He does prefer dogs, the bigger the better. And the way things are right now, the chances of him moving back are extremely slim. He is too wrapped in OW and his fantasy life, and has adamantly stated that he will never live in the same house as my dad ever again. More MLC opposite as he always said that my dad was the closest thing he had to a dad himself since he was 9 (he was living with his dad until he was sent back to live with his mother when his dad's GF’s son decided he didn’t like H). Don’t get me wrong, I’m not giving up yet; I’m just preparing myself for life without H as that is seeming more and more likely these days.

[TryingToDo180]

Well if he doesn't mind cats, then you've got a reason to get one, especially if your dad doesn't like dogs.
NQ, he may seem wrapped up in OW at the mo, but that will soon fizzle out. You can't just forget 16 years of marriage, however much they try to. The way I see it is that this OW is someone on the rebound. I couldn't even imagine having a relationship with a bloke at the mo. If I found one that I could just cuddle on the sofa for company then that would be ideal, but men always want more and I can't begin to imagine going to bed with another man at the mo!

[Not Quitting]

Thanks for the support and pep talk TTD. Guess I'm just feeling a little down. Last week was our engagement anniversary LOL - no I didn't mention it to H, and we're rapidly coming up on the anniversary of him meeting OW and of BD.

I totally agree about not being able to imagine being in a relationship at the mo - unless of course he was a DB pro LOL . Yep, I do miss the cuddles as well, and even just a brush of a hand. Hugs from my son help a bit, but they just aren't the same.

[TryingToDo180]

Glad I was able to cheer you up a bit NQ, keep your chin up and don't let the b******s grind you down