What are peoples thoughts on this? Do I cave sometimes because it's for the kids or do I stand to show that hopefully this behaviour is a waste of her time?
I think you should have politely and firmly told her what you were thinking. "I have absolutely no intention of jumping through any sort of manipulative hoops to be able speak to my own children, and using the children to coerce from me information I am under no obligation to share with you is completely inappropriate. If you have an issue with me, then takeissuewithme. But at no point in time should you ever put the children in the middle of us, using them as pawns to be played in the game of whatever disagreement we are having. Are we clear?"
I don't know how that lines up with your DB strategy, but that's what I would have been inclined to say.
-PM
I like this! I will need to read it a few times to get a good idea of it in my head. I will use something similar the next time she brings it up.
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