If you expected to have it everyday, it would be selfish. There is a difference between wanting and expecting.
Yes, the frequency thing has been a sore point for most of our marriage. I've always chafed at the advice that quality is more important than quantity. Sure, that's the kind of advice a LD person would give. Just like me telling you that you should be happy with one quality meal every couple of days, rather than three a day. I never understood people who were happy with sex just once a week. How can you not want sex on days 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6, and then suddenly you want sex on day 7? Like is that your refractory period, that you're suddenly interested in sex again on day 7?! And if you like various different positions, or role play, you're going to get just 4 shots at it in a month? So maybe you get around to a particular type of role play or fun just once every few months, or just a few times a year. That's just depressing.
Sure I could compromise to some degree. But if, say, it was just once a week, the reality is that 90% of the sex I'd have would be solo. So, most of the time it's like being back to not having a partnered relationship. Or do you think having solo sex once or twice a day is selfish too?!
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I want so badly to seduce him, but I have to wait for him to figure things out first. :C
Wow, how different we are! That's so hard for me to understand that I don't know what advice to give you. Figure things out? My reaction is, that's hilarious. What is there to figure out? I've been easy to seduce almost every moment of my adult life. A hand under my shirt, a kiss, a hand down my pants, a crotch grab, my wife wearing something revealing, or a hundred other things, and that's all it takes for me.
So, of course, my wife is very careful not to do any of those things, lest I get the wrong idea.
