Releasing...

[2ndtimearoundCA]

I remember a few months back expressing frustration with my situation right after my w suggested having drinks with me. Even though many on here would love the opportunity to have a "date" with their WAS, I felt my situation was just a roller coaster; the cycle was repeating itself and not really improving. I was being impatient. Others expressed annoyance with me for not being happy with what I had.

I have been following your situation since you came back to the boards and I get your frustration. But your w has said the words to you that many of us hope and dream our WAS will say to us. You have the opportunity to make it work. Listen to the vets on here and give it your best shot. We're all rooting for you

Stick with the people here and if things backslide a bit, we'll all be here to support you.

One of the things that I have realized during my journey is that I could find somebody new quite easily; on the surface I am a great catch. But I am on my second marriage already and I would likely be back a third time if I don't figure out me. I realize that I am a long ways away from that. If I was able to go to counseling with a willing w, and with the help of a counselor, see myself through my w's eyes that would be an amazing gift, even if things don't work out. If your w is willing to go to counseling, then you will get that amazing gift.