...and that's what I'm getting at. Not trying to get you to second guess. Rather, I'm trying to get you to look at this from a perspective of 5 or 10 years from now. Are you going to look back at this time and wonder? Wonder if you gave it everything you had? Wonder if you gave in to your anger, frustration, and ego?
It's not something I can guess for you. It's not something I have to live for you. I've been there. I know the emotional rollercoaster and emotional vomit you get. I know there are no clear cut answers. But I do know from personal experience that I am incredibly glad that I did what I did. I am not second guessing myself at this point. I did when I was in your shoes. I had a hard time seeing things from her perspective. So did she, but that's her deal. I can only control what I do and decided what I decide. I'm very happy with my decisions and actions. I wish the same for you regardless how things turn out.
There's no reason you need to change your mind. And there's no reason you can't. There's no reason you can't call her and let her know you had a change in plans and if the offer is still good you'd like to be there. There are no real rules other than maintaining your dignity and doing what you can, if you ask me.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
