HWA, I'm afraid you can't PM on here, I've tried it or did you mean FB? We've got round this by creating a goodreads account with our nicknames and then we talk privately through that When you've established a way of PMing and finding out real names, etc. then you will be able to add each other to FB
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
When you've established a way of PMing and finding out real names, etc. then you will be able to add each other to FB 
