Hoping to still move forward, huge setback

[cbtdad]

Thanks for the reply JP! And the encouragement. Its been a while since I have felt a little nervous about things. Not a good feeling. The feeling a had in the "pit of my stomach" yesterday in MC office in the beginning when my wife said, "I feel like I did a year ago, hopleless and not sure why I am doing this"
It felt like BD all over again. Thankfully after 2 hours of MC he asked W how she felt now and she said much better and realize this is a process. What the MC did well was to show us what we have been working on actually worked because we had this huge blowup saturday night, but were able to sit down sunday and communicate great about it. It was my anziety monday that became an issue and he showed up and talked about how to seperate these things.
When wife said she didnt feel remorseful it was more like she had a hard time saying sorry for something that she thinks turned out to be good. She is sorry for the pain and hurt it caused. I just wish she would show it more often. MC said that this is some of the things tying in from her past and her upbringing. Working on this in MC as well:)
Wife and I have scheduled time to talk tomorrow about some of these things and I plan up bringing up my feelings and how I feel and why I am worried.

I am fine meeting or not meeting the OM. We have become really good friends with this couple that is good friends with him. One of the reasons wife wants me to meet him is because she said she had a lot of anxiety built up with what it would be like when she first saw him. She said it went away after it happened. She thinks it would do the same for me. I kind of agree in a way. The reason I would meet him is to take away some of the anxiety when we are at friends house. The few times we are over there Im always worried hes going to stop by and what is that going to be like. So in that regard I would like to meet him and get it out of the way. So if we are at the same place it will be done. As i have told wife I have no interst in hanging out with the guy or anything like that. with that said this is what I am trying to explain my wife. if we are over there and he is invited because its a big group of people then fine. But I dont want her thinking just because she is comfortable now that it would be ok for him to come over while im not there and just hang out with the couple friends and her. Does that make sense?