If someone comes and says, "I want to try, and maybe we can date, etc" but they won't dismiss divorce, is that fair/reasonable? W did say we could put in a 90-day stay which basically means the divorce does nothing for 3 months.
I'm trying to decide if I should stand for full commitment, or take what you get. Is it greedy to require full commitment?
My W said we needed to build a foundation, to become friends and date. In my mind I thought, date? friends? Hell that is stupid, we are married and that is what I want from you, to say I am coming back and love you and blah, blah, blah.
The thing is, she was right. We needed to start over and relearn each other. Build a foundation on friendship and date to learn who we are now.
So my advice is except it with open arms and NO expectations.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
