Rolling in the deep...

[wishing, hoping]

Thanks, KML. I appreciate your input.

I am trying not to borrow trouble. I understand my boss's concern but it was just that straw that broke the camel's back thing. When it rains it pours. I let that go. And I never think about texting or calling. I honestly thought I was gonna be on time. Traffic didn't help either.

I know I can't stop him from being around his kids, and I really don't want to. I just wish he had the foresight to see what was good for the kids and what isn't. I wish he wasn't so he!! bent on "his way or the highway" especially where the kids are concerned.

You're probably right about H running up a credit card and spending OW's money, but apparently she doesn't have any either. It's really not my business. It will end up biting him sooner or later. I need to focus on my yard, not H's.

I emailed my concerns to my attorney's paralegal. I will see if they have any recommendations to help me.

I was baited by H earlier. This weekend is my weekend and it's trick or treat in our city from 5-7. He asked me about the times last night so I knew something was up. Today he emailed me and asked if I would mind if he took the kids trick or treat. I tried to explain that I usually don't get to take the kids door to door (I'm usually the one who stays back and hands out candy) and was really looking forward to it and that he was welcome to come along with us if he wished. He turned me down and asked if he could have the last 45 minutes of trick or treat to take the kids around just the three of them. I told him I would take them to the church indoor trick or treat, then around our old neighborhood from 5-6 and get them back to the house around 6-6:15 so he could take them for a while. He emailed back and was angry that I was "denying him the opportunity" to take the kids trick or treating. He said trick or treat runs from 4-6 and why was I limiting his access to the kids blah blah blah. He then demanded he should be able to take them to another town's trick or treat on Saturday. He attached a link to our county sheriff website which had trick or treat times listed as 4-6, not 5-7.

I double checked, verified the time was 5-7 on our City Website and the local newspaper's website and emailed H back saying "H, I talked to you about this last night. Trick or treat is from 5-7, not 4-6. Please the attached link." He emailed back and told me I didn't need to get angry about him requesting time with the kids. Huh??? Now I'm the one off the handle?? I literally LOL'd. I emailed back telling him I wasn't upset at all, I was just being factual. : ) In fact, I told him about a Halloween Magic Show that was going on at the recreation center tonight and told him the kids would probably really enjoy going to that. He did thank me for mentioning that at least.

And yes, I thought about making my mom some jewelry for Christmas. And you're right, the kids have too much stuff anyway and H keeps just buying more and more and more. YIKES! You can't even move in their room from all the stuff. Pretty soon the house is gonna look like a scene from "Hoarders". I'm trying to simplify and H is trying to complicate. Hmmm...sounds a lot like our marriage.

In other news, D has changed her mind about the Halloween costume she wants to wear. I bought her a Snoopy toy that she is in love with and now wants to dress as Snoopy. Okay! I googled it and all I need are white sweats turned inside out (for that dog fur feel) and some black felt like material for ears and spots. I found a furry white hat and I think I have some gloves or mittens somewhere. S had a fuzzy black blanket material from a few years ago when he made a dog art project so I used that with an ear template to make Snoopy's black ears. I just need to find sweats, cut out a black spot for the back, make a tail and something for her feet.

At least I know she will be warm. Now I didn't say anything to her about her other costume except that if she wore it, she would need to wear pants and a shirt underneath it because it would be cold. I am so excited to get this costume around!!! : )

WH