HWA I feel that you are beating yourself up unnecessarily. I doubt that all you've ever done in your life is selfish and negative things. Don't forget the WAS sees only negativity in you and others. She's probably also tried to turn her family against you. I know this has happened with my MIL and she'll believe everything her darling son says about me. Putting others before yourself is certainly not selfish. If you have any money left over, then it's only natural that you'll spend it on yourself after the other members of your family have got all that they need After all that's what the male species do only kidding Your W is happy with her share of the property, so there's really no need to feel guilty. She wanted to split the assets and she's the one who left you. Remember that! You should be feeling angry about this, not guilty. If you want, write down all the things that you bought and/or paid for in the last few months of your W living with you. Make 2 columns - in one write all the things that you bought for the family, in the second column write all the things you bought for yourself. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised I think if you were that selfish, then you'll be the WAS! Just think how selfish these WASs are and then think, I don't come anywhere near as close as that! I hope this post makes sense, this is just my opinion
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
After all that's what the male species do 
