I told him if he needs to go out, he should let me know in advance. So we can arrange our time for the kids. But he replied since I don't agree to divorce, he doesn't want to share his schedule in advance.
Tell him "this has nothing to do with divorce, or us as husband and wife. This is about effectively co-parenting our children, and I'm sure we'd both agree that we both want to do what's best for them. Having a parenting schedule, in advance, will give them structure and help them feel secure thru this difficult time."
You need to try to separate the HUSBAND/WIFE/MARRIAGE stuff from the PARENTING stuff. Just because he wants to flee from the former, doesn't mean he gets a pass on the latter.
