lostinpgh, AS and Accuray gave you some good advice. It does look like your H needs some space right now. He is definitely going through something. You need to have a lot of patience, because it could be a long process. What are you doing for you right now?
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state