"She probably thinks that you are the sole source of all her unhappiness, so the farther she can push you away the happier she thinks she'll be. Just grant her wish and give her the space, unless she's a lost cause she will figure out she's still unhappy and eventually come to realize that it's not you after all."
Yup, that is why I have gone into n/c mode. To really give her space to see if I was the source of all her unhappiness. Hey, I guess its possible I was the source of all her unhappiness but I dont really believe that.
2old, literally where I stand now. The W wants the assets split most likely before I move away. Once I have moved away, she can then have her happly life with no family to annoy her or visit her, unless she wants. Whether she is with the other woman (relationship wise) or not, it doesn't matter. Someday she may realise that I wasn't the only source of her unhappiness, that I was just the easiest target of that source. All I can do, and you too 2old, is be the spouse she regrets walking away from.
ps: I still don't know where you got the "donk" meaning from. The only thing I could think that was close is "He donked me on the head!" Sometimes years ago, we would have said he donked me, meaning he hit me. But nothing related to a bodyguard etc.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
