I said that I feel a big problem in this is that my wife shows no empathy for me. That she shows no remorse for her actions. He asked if she was remorseful and she said no. She said bein remorseful to her is let admitting defeat and that she did something wrong. Are you kidding me?!? She said she is sorry that we had to go through all of this and all this pain, but she doesn't want to say remorseful because she feels like all of this needed to happen for us to get to where we are now. This is really hard for me to hear. The fact that she doesn't feel bad for all the hurt and anger I have is really getting to me and I'm having a hard time not blowing up about it. I am curious to what your MC said her saying that? Did you ask her if she felt bad that you were hurt by this? Maybe the word remorseful can be thrown out and more talk about how you feel/felt can happen? More discussion and not relying on her agreeing to a word, does that make any sense? What worries me is that she thinks that its alright and now she is ok with OM being around with other friends and stuff. I've tried to explain my concerns but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. Maybe see if the therapist can help with paraphrasing what you have said. I feel like we are on a path for disaster, but I don't know how to communicate it to her because she just doesn't see it. Don’t rush this, but don’t let it go, you will need to get this out and said to move on.
I'm really trying to keep a cool head at the moment
This is good I may be way off her, but I would not meet the OM.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
