We had an exceptionally good sex life together until all of this happend. The last time we did make love she stated (later on) that she "felt nothing" (emotionally)..and for a woman to feel nothing emotionally is a nail in the coffin until I find a way to get her back. It's been a little over 3 months since we made love and now she won't even let me touch her bare skin.
Because she doesn't feel a connection with you anymore. That doesn't mean it can never return again.
3 months is nothing in this type of situation. This didn't break overnight, and it won't fix overnight either.
Originally Posted By: DTM
I certainly had other issues..but none of them so serious that they couldn't be made better with communication instead of checking out of the marriage..but that's my fault for not seeing and hearing like I do now.
Don't discount YOUR luggage that you carry around. What seems miniscule to you, could be very large to her.
You have to open yourself up to examine those things, and understand them at the most simplest of levels. Ask yourself if YOU would want that in a partner.
Then find out WHY you were like that...
Originally Posted By: DTM
I am committed to DB'ing and finding a way to show her happiness in our marriage. I BELIEVE I can do it because I love this woman and don't want to be without her. I AM capable of moving on and would have probably done so already if we didn't have two awesome young kids. My W is not evil, I don't hate her or wish her ill will. I have truly forgiven her for going outside our marriage...she knows this. I am humble and I am not looking to even the score..I'm just trying to find out if she truly wants to be ROOMATES with no hope of a marriage again or something more. I guess the answer is time and patience.
If you ask her today, her answer will be no, she does not want that.
