Question...Contemplating taking off my ring. Have you taken that step? One the one hand, my ring symbolizes my commitment. on the other, that old marriage is over... Thoughts friends??
I quickly read through your thread and didn't notice if you stated what your decision on this was. Here's my take:
Don't do what *I* think you should do, don't do what anyone else on this forum thinks you should do, and don't do what your H thinks you should do. I had the same questions you likely have, "Will my spouse feel pressure when they see the ring on my finger? Will it make them mad or frustrated...make them think I don't believe them or aren't "getting it"? If I take it off, what does that say about me? Will people notice and ask questions?"
Your ring is a symbol of WHO YOU ARE. So if you are committed until the divorce is final and want to wear it, then wear it. If you're done with the marriage and are fine taking it off, then take it off. Just don't feel pressure from anyone else to do anything. Stay true to yourself - that ring is a representation of who YOU are.
FWIW, my XW took hers off about a year before our D. I wore mine until a few minutes after the judge declared the divorce final. My finger still feels naked.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
