I've been keeping up with your sitch. Went AWOL for a while as there's some strange stuff happening in my life that needed to be processed and acknowledged. One day may post it in the Surviving D forum.
Since your H is one of those kitty kitten MLCers, I would suggest that you change things up a bit. When he talks nonsense about these OW's and such, I'd suggest that you start poking holes at them and hit him with "reality pill." Then sit back and observe. Time to show some steely backbone in your convos with H and hit him in the head now and then with comments that will crack his rose-colored glasses. If he objects or fusses around, just say that it is what a "friend would do" in looking out the best interests of their best friend.
Go on and experiment with this new approach! Then sit back and watch.
