DARK - how do you do it right? I need help BADLY

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I should've also mentioned that she is a texter - all day, everyday and if it's not that it's facebook messenger...thousands of text and messages a month (when I was snooping it was 7100 texts to the OW back in March...that is 5 texts a minute for 24 hrs)...very disturbing and heart breaking.
When she does text me...as she did a minute ago I get the bare minimum *we are back at the house* was what I got when she returned from Grandmother's house a little while ago, heck I didn't even know they left yet for the 3 hr trip back. I notices she DID NOT say "we are HOME" because she doesn't feel as if our house is her HOME. I simply replied back that "I didn't know you even left yet and glad you all got home safely!"
That is probably all that I will hear from her today until I get home and put on my 180 face. I really think I have a significant uphill battle to win....if I win at all.