2old, now that is hard to answer. Unless I have it very wrong, sometimes we use words for different things, and people from overseas take it wrong.
My version of a "donk" is an engine. So yes, I have an inline six in the Ford Falcon, a 675cc engine in the Daytona bike. An an imaginary 632 cu in engine going in the 55 Chev one day.......when I win the lottery.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I'll try not to Cadet I thought a donk was short for a donkey, I'm now humming "donkey riding" lol. Having just been to a stable trail meeting, I've got Christmas songs going round in my head now, lol
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
She gave me her sons addy when she was living there. She did though know she was moving to her new place and yet gave me her sons in care of addy for me to send mail.
Ah, I misunderstood that. I think I saw in another thread that you decided to forward it, I think that's fine either way. It's really your choice, something like this isn't going to make or break the R.
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It was about 5 or 6 months before Ms. Wonka gave me her 'new' address and 1,300 miles separated us!
Was she concerned you might stalk her? That would take some dedication, LOL!
AS, I did send it to her via her son's address. She hasn't given me her new address and I can only figure it's because she is afraid I might show up there? I dont know but it is crazy for her to think that IMHO. I never caused her any physical harm etc. She knows this. I can only assume she simply doesn't "want me anymore" judging from the lack of contact from her.
I find myself for the past few days cycling into a "hey I didnt deserve the way she left me" mode. I'm mad one minute and very sad the next. After 6 months I'm still dealing with the emotions of having a supposed love one simply leave without even a two minute warning.
Even though I will probably never get an explanation from her the fact is after 13 years I at the very least deserved one. Although I'm somewhat surprised she hasn't filed for divorce yet I do think back to what her daughter told me a couple months ago. How her mother told her that if you can live without someone for a year then you can live the rest of your life without them and then stated who knows what will happen.
To me this is crazy talk. Maybe it has something to do with her mindset and maybe it doesn't. The only thing I do know is she left without saying she was and has since been very very aloof towards me. Guilt? I believe now that she has to feel some guilt for the way she has done this. Does it a make a difference, not really I presume.
So dont condemn here as I really felt the need to journal and express my feelings 6 months into this major event in my life.....And no, I do not expect her to provide me any answers as they would not help anyways. Nothing she could say would really make a difference at this point. BUt, the mindset into this kind of sitch might be helpful not only to me but to others as well.....
It was about 5 or 6 months before Ms. Wonka gave me her 'new' address and 1,300 miles separated us!
Was she concerned you might stalk her? That would take some dedication, LOL!
AS, I'm thinking that was just typical WAS Berlin Wall thing...it happens all the time over here in the forums. But yeah..it's funny and crazy at the same time!! Now it ins't so much an issue any longer now that Ms. Wonka has told me where she now lives and is cool with me knowing where she lives now. That massive, floating glacier took a looooooong time to thaw...talk about a 9-foot thick glacier as in 9 years!
She hasn't given me her new address and I can only figure it's because she is afraid I might show up there?
She probably thinks that you are the sole source of all her unhappiness, so the farther she can push you away the happier she thinks she'll be. Just grant her wish and give her the space, unless she's a lost cause she will figure out she's still unhappy and eventually come to realize that it's not you after all.
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I dont know but it is crazy for her to think that IMHO.
Of course it is, but WAS's don't think rationally unless and until they come out of the fog.
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I find myself for the past few days cycling into a "hey I didnt deserve the way she left me" mode. I'm mad one minute and very sad the next. After 6 months I'm still dealing with the emotions of having a supposed love one simply leave without even a two minute warning.
That's OK, if anyone tells you that you should be over it by now then they're just being armchair quarterbacks. They're not out there taking the hits like us with no pads or helmets on, LOL! But the key that tells me you are going to be OK is what I bolded in your statement. You are dealing with the emotions. Good, that's the path to healing
Originally Posted By: Wonka
talk about a 9-foot thick glacier as in 9 years!
9 years just to get her address, that sounds like the babiest of baby steps I've ever heard
