So if they continue to stay while W moves into the new place, then it will communicate to them that when they go to her, it will be like visiting. This probably sounds like a better idea, eh?
Exactly!
Originally Posted By: S4tk
I bought "Love Must be Tough" and am already about half way through it AS. I am wondering - since the book focuses on WAS's who are having affairs, would my approach maybe be different?
I agree with what F said. In my opinion there are 3 types of affairs- EA (emotional), PA (physical) and IA (imaginary). In absence of an actual OP, the WAS almost always imagines there is a perfect OP that is waiting just beyond their grasp, and as soon as they can unload the LBS they'll be able to find their prince charming OP and live happily ever after. In many ways an IA is the toughest for an LBS to compete against because it's easy to imagine a perfect OP whereas an affair with an actual OP will sooner or later expose the realities of another person's quirks and faults.
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should I reiterate the fact that I am remorseful for the part I have played in her loss of love?
If you've made a genuine apology to her already, then there's no need to apologize again. Many LBSs make the mistake of apologizing over and over again. It's tiresome to the WAS and makes the LBS look desperate and needy. It also downplays the WAS's role in the M falling apart.
