oThis version of me would handle conflict immediately, like my boss does.
oConvictions: every person has innate value and deserves respect. We are responsible to each other and the planet (lots more political stuff could come here). Life is ultimately meaningless, but since it is so, you might as well put a brave face on it and make the best of things. Humor is good. Love your kids and your spouse and your friends.
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o daring to be honest, with authentic, caring communication with my W and kids, just like I had with my dad about his incontinence o positive (the glass is half full, folks) o capable of the 9 miles on weekends (and I really should stretch and weightlift too) o meditate in the mornings, to quiet my mind o being more socially at ease, like my French guy friend o creating my life actively, like the men's lunch club thing o better in touch with my real self - so less mind and thought
Take a look at each goal individually and jot down a plan of a few steps on how you can reach that goal. Keep them handy so you can remind yourself.
Specifically to how you handle conflict and standing firm in your core convictions, start practicing it immediately. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but come naturally as it develops into habit...the newer version of you.
Getting advice here is great, but it's easy to become dependent upon that advice and not learn the lessons. That's the "following orders" I wrote about previously. So instead of asking advice on how to handle situations here on this MB, ask YOURSELF, "How would the future version of me handle this situation?" And then DO THAT.
Start practicing. Become the person you want to be. "Become" is a verb, LuckyLuke, it's an action...you have to do the work; it isn't just going to happen magically.
Focus on you for now, the you you want to become.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
