Do you want this bad enough to stir the pot, leave for an undetermined period of time?
Perhaps long enough that she will seek help and accept help?
Meaning that she start looking within herself as to why she feels it is okay to not have sex at all?
Dr. Laura writes about this, and she is pretty frank. If this is a problem for you, it should be perceived as a problem for the marriage!
She took vows saying she AND you would keep only unto each other, she is forbidding you from herself, yet she still wants to be married. This is wrong.
I do not believe she is exhausting all avenues to make this part , a very BIG part, of marriage joyful. Human beings whether male or female need this. I am 53, and this is a topic among women all the time. ATTITUDE is 99 % of this.
I'm not saying to get angry and attack her, but I do believe that you are making excuses for her behavior and attitude.
Okay, so you want it every day and she doesn't want it at all?
There is SOOOOO much room for compromise here, and if she isn't willing to , it has NOTHING to do with libido. This is about meeting your partner . Brothers and sisters? Not even close, friends? Again, there has to be some give and take, and she is not coming close to giving. THIS is what needs to be addressed!
Why is it that she feels she is entitled to not putting any effort into intimacy? What makes her feel this is acceptable behavior? These are questions she must ask herself. For this is the epitome of selfish behavior and thought.
You expecting it everyday would be the same. Wanting it everyday is not. This is the difference between what she is doing and what you desire.
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
