HWA, stay strong brother! You're doing great Hopefully that was the first step in reestablishing a strong bond with your sons.
I don't think there was any harm in sending your W a brief response to her message, it was just you being cordial.
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Now when I get the reply from the W, agreeing to the splitting of assets, all I can feel is sadness because it looks like all I have done is thought about myself again. Even though, all I have really done is agreed to her terms.
Well your guilt and sadness is real, so those are feelings that you want to address. It's easy for us to look at your above statement and say "don't be silly HWA, your W set the terms and you just agreed to it." But you have some history of maybe being a little selfish when it came to that, so it's understandable to feel some guilt over it. I think your W just wants it over and done with and is probably trying to make it as palateable for you as possible so that you won't drag it out, so she probably has selfish reasons for accepting less than you think she should. I wouldn't offer her any more than she's asking for, just process your feelings and leave it as-is.
Hopefully that was the first step in reestablishing a strong bond with your sons. 
