On a totally different note, I was born in the Rocky Mountain state. Weird, huh? I lived there til I was 7 and still have family there.
Anyway, I am sending you HUGS! You are very strong and amazing....and you said what you needed to say.
We can all give DBing advice on here...but all of our sitches are different...and I truly believe that if you feel peace, then that is what needed to happen.
I agree completely w/AngelaR. DBing is certainly not a science. There are rules of thumb, but if this is what it took for you to get some peace tonight, I can't argue that. Your H has some big decisions to work through now. Let him work that out on his own. Focus on yourself and your S now.
ETC
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
That is cool Angela. I love this state. Thanks for the virtual hug.
Etc, thank you for the hugs. And I must be okay with it because I am not bawling my eyes out, my heart is not pounding out of my chest and I feel a HUGE sense of relief!
I am at peace. I agree, etc, now he has some big things to think about and needs to work it out now, with himself. By his lonesome. His little wee-ness. His alien leader.
Thanks again you two for the support tonight. ((((HUGS)))) back at ya.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Pud, I hope you got some sleep. plan to have a good productive day today so that your mind doesn't do the replay thing of last night. I did feel when my h was home the walking on eggshells around him. I felt his underlying disdain. I think part of his struggle and confusion. My h came back twice. I should not have been so eager to take him back. I should have insisted on some therapy if he genuinely wanted to be back. Day at a time Pud. Be the terrific you today!!Be thankful for the paece you felt. I know that is what I am striving for-peace.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13