Who is this woman & what has she done with my wife

[THX-1138]

... I applaud that you're doing things for you. I do. But I have to ask myself after reading your post if you did it for you or for you to get back at her? Just asking what the motivation was in the decision...

My motivation was entirely selfish. I asked myself what I could handle, and what I wanted to do about it, and then did it.

For once, I put my own needs first.