"homework" from job - Hi Job, thank you

[etc]

P, just remember that your mind is really a changing system. Right now it's going haywire because it's so hard to process all of this. Give it some time to settle. You don't want to make any impulsive decisions. Give yourself time to heal.

Can you go do something to relax right now? Take a walk (dog?), take a shower or bath, watch a TV show, pray? I wouldn't pursue him at all until you're in better shape emotionally and I know for certain that you're going to get there. It just takes time for everything in your being to get itself together. Give yourself time to get collected.

I know you'll do great no matter what happens. This is all temporary and only by letting go can any of us make any progress in our lives. Let your H go on his journey so you can focus on yours.

ETC