I feel like some of our employees have fed me stuff that may or may not be true, but have essentially kept me in emotional turmoil because they don't like him - more specifically, think they can run the business better than him -- and have tried to play me to get what they want. That is, they would prefer he stay away.
I know he is certainly no angel, but he is a smart business man. So, I now have the issue of trying to figure out who is telling the truth.
I think you owe it to yourself to do a few things, if it helps. You need to figure out the truth as much as possible. Take others out of the equation - this is between you and him. Be wary though, right? The other is to figure out that you need to face things and square them away one direction or the other. I'm not hearing that you want him gone. I'm hearing you won't tolerate affairs or games. I can't imagine how your conversation will go. Neither can you, so I would think you'll be best served if you take it as it comes. And verify things before making any moves. There's obviously a trust issue that needs to be dealt with one way or another. The conversation may be about that and how to either work through it or figure out a graceful exit.
My $0.04
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."