Well Jon, you and your w have been so back and forth that I am actually not all that surprised that you are at this point. Like you, I wouldn't be surprised if she changed her mind again.
Two conflicting thoughts.
1. There is a lot of push/pull going on in your situation that could be creating attraction. Since she is not totally done, pushing her away might actually be drawing her back in. Also there is the possible jealousy about the other women.
2. Your way of interacting with your w needs some serious help if you are going to have a healthy long term marriage. While it could create attraction, it will lead to an unhealthy volatile relationship.
It is clear that your w needs help (ugly babies comments, watching tv all day, etc.). All the back and forth, I believe is partially on you Jon; you are so frustrated with it, that the frustration actually perpetuates the back and forth issue. I hope you stick around here because I think others have had some great insights into you and I don't think you have totally heard them.
If you can make it happen, I believe the your relationship with you w would benefit greatly from counseling.
I am all about creating attraction, but I think you need to understand why it may be happening. Once you understand it, you may be able to come up with healthier ways to do the same thing.
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
