As far as the dating, it just depends on where your W is regarding the M. I wouldn't suggest initiating any "dating" unless she does. If she's not up for it, it won't be fun or beneficial in any way. Just more of that tough uncomfortable feeling together, confirming in her mind why she's "done".

If SHE enjoys going out with you, then by all means do it. Build on your connection.

Originally Posted By: JFun51
Tough being in the same house. I hafta see her constantly. Giving her space to work things out would be easier if we were apart. I don't wish that, though. It's one step closer to divorce.


Agreed on both counts. Living together can be tough at times, but it also prevents total disconnection. Notice that when a spouse who moved out comes home, it's always viewed as a positive step.

My W is often cool and distant to me, but has slept in our house every night. That means a lot to me.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl